“ So, you'd announce an attack and wait to see if the defender plays a card before you play yours as the attacker?”
If the rules - in this case the card wording (plus an FAQ) - allow it, I might. Conversely, I wouldn’t complain if my opponent did the same. That seems fair. Some other games do define card play procedure in the way you like to play; Here I Stand comes to mind. C&C does not define TC play as attacker then defender, at least for those cards that can be played at precisely the same point. In that regard, I respect each designer’s decision as to what makes for a better game.
Where sequence is defined, as it is for the squaring procedure, it is not an issue. So, I am not sure if I understand the example you gave there and wonder if you read more into my original question than I intended.
I like to play to standard rules, one reason I value the FAQ on this site to resolve anomalies.
Still interested to hear views on my original question but for now I think it can be played by either player.